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To Polygraph or Not to Polygraph?

Thu, 05 Apr 2018 04:00:01 GMT

Standard sex addiction treatment protocol, especially in cases where a partner (or spouse) has discovered sexual betrayal by the addict, includes a process called “disclosure.” Disclosure is a 3-phase, structured and formal process, facilitated by both the partner’s therapist and the addict’s therapist. It occurs over a period of several months, usually starting about 6-9 months into therapy, ideally sooner. In the first phase, the addict reads the disclosure letter to the partner, explaining the ways in which the addict violated sexual boundaries, betrayed partner’s trust, was manipulative and deceitful. In the second phase, the partner reads the impact statement to the addict, describing the emotional pain, mental turmoil, sexual trauma, and other impacts of the betrayal. In the third phase, the addict reads the emotional restitution letter to the partner, empathizing with the partner’s emotional pain, fear, shame, and anger. This 3-phase process is typically very emotional and somewhat traumatic to both parties. Just like physical healing, emotional healing sometimes requires painful and traumatic “surgery.” Whereas the disclosure process is very challenging, it establishes a foundation of truth and honesty from which the couple can heal, grow, and eventually thrive.

After going through what may feel like another confessional, how does a partner know that the addict is being truthful in the disclosure letter or isn’t still trying to hide something, especially after years and years of lies? When the partner’s trust bucket is empty and when the partner’s gut instincts are thought to be unreliable, a polygraph exam can be a helpful tool. A scheduled post-disclosure polygraph exam also serves as an incentive for the addict to be completely honest. After reading a disclosure letter and then passing a polygraph exam, the addict often feels empowered: “Yes, I do have the capacity to be honest.” When the addict passes the polygraph exam, the partner can begin the journey of learning to trust the gut, again. To maintain a track record of honesty, addicts often repeat the polygraph exam about every 3 or 4 months for the next year or so. In combination with other recovery activities, polygraph exams can be a tool to help couples reestablish trust and honesty in their relationship.

But how reliable are polygraph exams, anyway? What if the addict receives a false positive – passes the exam while not being truthful? What if the addict receives a false negative – fails the exam while being truthful? How does the polygraph exam work, and what are the factors that might contribute to inaccurate results? Does the examiner’s personality or approach play a role in the accuracy of the results? Do all reputable examiners use essentially the same equipment and testing methods? Does the test-taker play a role in the accuracy of the results? These are some of the questions I started to ask myself when after many years of beneficial outcomes, I learned about someone who received inaccurate results. It made me question whether or not I should recommend its use in the future as part of the disclosure process. The undue emotional stress was costly for this individual, his wife, and the marriage.

First of all, "lie detector," the common term for polygraph, is a misnomer. I avoid the term, “lie detector,” and discourage its use by others. There is no specific physiological reaction associated with lying. Brain activity and mechanisms associated with lying are unknown, making it difficult to identify factors that separate liars from truth tellers. The premise behind polygraph is that a lie is associated with guilt, and guilt is associated with a stress response. So rather than using a misleading term like “lie detector,” I think a more suitable slang term for polygraph would be “stress detector.”

Polygraph testing involves inferring guilt or “deception” by measuring physiological responses to a series of questions. The polygraph measures and records several physiological indices such as blood pressure , pulse , respiration , and skin conductivity . These indices are represented by the familiar squiggly lines on a rolling tape. The problem with polygraphs is that although they are good at detecting a stress response, other factors besides guilt from not telling the truth may be present, like anxiety disorders such as PTSD, OCD, or ADHD, nervousness, fear, confusion, hypoglycemia, psychosis, depression, aggressive tactics by the examiner, substance use (nicotine, stimulants), or substance withdrawal (alcohol). A polygraph cannot differentiate stress caused by dishonesty and stress caused by something else.

Several questioning techniques are commonly used in polygraph tests. The most widely used test format is the Control Question Test (CQT). The CQT compares responses to relevant questions (e.g., “Did you have sex with a woman other than your wife?”), with those of control questions. The control questions are designed to control for the effect of the generally threatening nature of the relevant questions. Control questions concern misdeeds that are similar to those being investigated, but refer to the subject’s past and are usually broad in scope; for example, “Have you ever betrayed anyone who trusted you?”

A person who is telling the truth is assumed to fear the control questions more than the relevant questions. This is because the control questions are designed to arouse a subject’s concern about their past truthfulness, while relevant questions ask about a behavior they presumably know they did not commit. A pattern of greater physiological response to relevant questions than to control questions leads to a diagnosis of “deception.” Greater response to control questions leads to a judgment of “non-deception.” If no difference is found between relevant and control questions, the test result is considered “inconclusive.” These differences are subjective and based on interpretation by the examiner, and bias can result in the examiner drawing the wrong conclusion.

A fundamental problem with polygraph examinations is how operators establish what a lie looks like. Subjects are peppered with a variety of "control questions" to which the examiner anticipates a dishonest answer. Those who insist, for example, that they never stole something as a child or never tried illegal drugs in their youth are assumed to be lying -- and the examiner then uses those responses as a baseline for detecting deceptive answers to other questions. In addition, the underlying assumption (physiological response to guilt) is flawed, as well. There is no evidence that any pattern of physiological reactions is unique to deception. An honest person may be nervous when answering truthfully and a dishonest person may be non-anxious.

For now, although the idea of a polygraph may be comforting for the partner and/or the addict, the most practical advice is to remain skeptical about any conclusion wrung from a polygraph exam. Polygraphs not only falsely accuse honest people of lying – they also fail to detect skilled liars. Even using the high estimates of the polygraph's accuracy, 90%, false positives occur, and these people suffer the consequences of "failing" the polygraph. A 1997 survey in the Journal of Applied Psychology put the test's accuracy rate at only 61 percent.

If you are inclined to use polygraph as part of the disclosure process, know that it is just a tool. For best results, seek a polygraph examiner who is well versed in sexual addiction, sees the polygraph as part of the relationship repair process, and believes that recovery from sexual addiction is possible. I do not recommend examiners who approach the process as if the addict is a criminal. If an examiner wants to “nail” the addict, they can manipulate the test to increase the chances. These examiners are not interested in sexual addiction recovery for the addict and his or her partner, and I’m not interested in having them be part of the process.

When partners experience sexual betrayal, perhaps the most painful experience of trauma they may ever experience in their lives, they respond to the trauma with safety-seeking behaviors. The request for polygraph is sometimes one of them. Whereas safety-seeking behaviors are normal and natural, they are not healing. External forces may provide relief, but they never offer the sustainable healing energy we desire. The wounds of sexual betrayal are spiritual; the damage inflicts the person’s sole. Thus, the healing must also be spiritual and come from the divine within.

Recommit to LOVE in ALL relationships

jenny@bluffviewcounseling.com (Jenny Adams) — Tue, 13 Feb 2018 16:06:49 GMT

On the surface, Valentines day is about flowers, chocolates, and balloons, but the deeper meaning is held in the relationships you have with yourself and with others. How are your relationships with the important people in your life? Are you a good partner, friend, or parent?

This week lets celebrate all the relationships in your life; realizing what is great and thinking about what you could do to make them better. Understanding how we show up in relationships can give us a clear picture of what we give and what we need. Several things can add to the success of our relationships and most of them are true whether it is a romantic, friendship, or parental.

All research will say that communication is key. This is not just talking about issues, but listening to what others are saying without trying to change or fix the situation. When those we relate to feel heard they also feel loved. The vulnerability that develops leads to a great trust and connection.

An important part of vulnerability is having consistent check-ins with your partner or family. Find out what is going good, what is causing fear, what they need or want in the relationship. If we are checking in we can adjust the sails and continue on the path toward healthy relationship and growth.

Often, what we fail to see, is that the difficult conversations, are the very ones that bring us closer together. It is through love, vulnerability, and connection that we are invited to evolve and grow to be our best selves. Show up today and let all your true wishes, desires, fears be seen by someone. They deserve to know you. What can you do to support all your relationships today?

And maybe most importantly, take a minute to think about your relationship with yourself. Are you your worst critic or advocate? Do you take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually? What can you do for yourself tomorrow that reminds you that you matter?

This is Me!

jenny@bluffviewcounseling.com (Jenny Adams) — Wed, 31 Jan 2018 04:20:57 GMT

The Greatest Showman theme song says so much

If you have not seen the movie, The Greatest Showman, I believe that you should. A couple different stories are told; one being the life of PT Barnum. The deeper story is about group of people who felt they never belonged. They find a place with the Barnum and begin to feel like part of a family. It is in this attachment, that they begin to see that they are warriors. The beauty of this story (and the song) is that everyone reaches a point where the accept who they are and the inner beauty that they possess.

When a physical difference is present in someones life it is an outward sign to the world that something is different. The belief that everyone is looking and judging can be so real. We all can relate to feeling like everyone is staring. That feeling can lead to negative self talk, shame, or distance. In addition, there are often inner struggles that no can see that create the same reaction. We often can wonder if they only knew this about me, they would judge me. The shame can be overwhelming and yet is sometimes created just by the sense that someone is watching. It does not have to mean that, we just have to change our inner dialogue.

This theme song shares with us all that we are glorious! No matter what struggle, thought, look, or emotion we are having; we should not be afraid to share that with the world. Their response to us is about them.

"I am brave, I am bruised
I am who I'm meant to be, this is me "

I hope that you can watch the clip above, showing Kaela Settles auditioning for the movie. It is so moving and such a tribute to a beautiful movie and a beautiful message. I hope that my children continue to take this song in and believe it as much as I do about them. You deserve that too.

We Have a Right to Grieve Losses Big and Small

Fri, 31 Mar 2017 14:41:00 GMT

Grief is something that impacts us all in some way. What people typically think of is the loss of a loved one. Learning news of a terminal illness, the loss of a home from violent tornado, or a recent divorce are all acceptable events to grieve about. We can understand how any of these things […] The post We Have a Right to Grieve Losses Big and Small appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Treating Trauma with Yoga

Fri, 27 Jan 2017 19:09:00 GMT

Trauma is defined as extreme stress that overwhelms a person’s ability to cope. The traumatic event causing the stress can come in many forms including combat, natural disaster, sexual assault, or car accident. The type of trauma I see most frequently in my practice is referred to as complex trauma. Complex trauma is typically […] The post Treating Trauma with Yoga appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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“Inside Out” – The Movie (A Psychological Review)

Wed, 19 Aug 2015 13:56:00 GMT

www.BluffviewCounseling.com “Inside Out” – The Movie “Inside Out” does a wonderful job of telling a story about the psychology of emotions. I laughed and cried with the ups and downs of Riley’s life as her joy center tried to keep her fear, sadness, anger, and disgust centers in check. Pixar does a brilliant job of […] The post “Inside Out” – The Movie (A Psychological Review) appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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“Inside Out” draws from Darwin’s theory of the nature of emotions — I think he got it wrong

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“ANXIOUS: Using the Brain to Understand and Treat Fear and Anxiety”

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Addiction Recovery and Relationship Healing – Keep Going!!! It Gets Better, I Promise!

Wed, 22 Jul 2015 14:51:00 GMT

Addiction Recovery and Relationship Healing – Keep Going!!! It Gets Better, I Promise! www.BluffviewCounseling.com How long will it take? I am going to therapy and 12-step meetings every week, so why am I still struggling? When will my wife stop being so angry? When will my husband start taking recovery more seriously? I don’t have time for […] The post Addiction Recovery and Relationship Healing – Keep Going!!! It Gets Better, I Promise! appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Fight Song – By Rachel Platten – Inspirational!

Mon, 06 Jul 2015 16:48:00 GMT

(From Jenny Adams) I heard this song the other day and thought it would be a a good blog post. … I listened to the words of Rachel Platten’s “Fight Song” – You Tube and was filled with passion and power. This source of power is something that can be such a motivator when you […] The post Fight Song – By Rachel Platten – Inspirational! appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Can You Really Be Addicted to a Behavior?

Thu, 28 May 2015 22:01:00 GMT

This is a great Article by Rob Weiss – Senior Vice President of Clinical Development, Elements Behavioral Health Article: Can You Really Be Addicted to a Behavior? Most people can easily comprehend addiction to a substance — alcohol, illicit drugs, prescription medications, cigarettes, and even something like chocolate. If they’ve not dealt with such an addiction themselves, […] The post Can You Really Be Addicted to a Behavior? appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Spiritual Addiction

Wed, 29 Apr 2015 18:49:00 GMT

At the risk of challenging you to move outside of your comfort zone, I am posting an article by one of my teachers about spiritual addiction. Falling into the trap is very easy. What I have discovered within my own recovery is that getting caught into the trap keeps me from embracing all of reality […] The post Spiritual Addiction appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Children and Internet Porn

Mon, 13 Apr 2015 14:36:00 GMT

The children as young as ten who will do ANYTHING to feed their internet porn addiction Children are able to access pornography with alarming ease through mobiles NSPCC poll found one-in-ten 12 to 13-year-olds worried about porn addiction Another survey revealed Pornhub was among top sites for boys aged 11 to 16 One boy used […] The post Children and Internet Porn appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Sex Addiction, Love Addiction, Sex and Love Addiction? What’s the difference?

Fri, 20 Feb 2015 22:05:00 GMT

There is confusion out there about the differences between Sex Addiction, Love Addiction, and Sex and Love Addiction. The way that I understand the best, is to look at the three on a continuum from love addiction being on one end and sex addiction being on the other end. There is plenty gray in between […] The post Sex Addiction, Love Addiction, Sex and Love Addiction? What’s the difference? appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Post Romantic Stress Disorder

For people who do struggle with problematic sexual/relationship behaviors, it is very possible to have intimate, fun, safe, and sexual relationships. Valuing the self and getting help is the start!

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Interesting Perspective on Addiction and Attachment – by Johann Hari’s www.chasingthescream.com

Mon, 09 Feb 2015 16:55:00 GMT

I thought that this was an interesting perspective on Addiction and Attachment. I think that connection and attachment is a huge part of healing, but believe that “almost everything we have been told about addiction is wrong” is not true. It is a combination of what we know and what we are learning. Cole This […] The post Interesting Perspective on Addiction and Attachment – by Johann Hari’s www.chasingthescream.com appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Please Don’t Give Them Porn for Christmas!

Fri, 02 Jan 2015 00:10:00 GMT

Please Don’t Give Them Porn for Christmas! This Christmas a lot of children will receive porn from under the tree. It not what they wanted, and not what their parents intended for them to have. But they will get it anyway. The first iPod, the first tablet, the first laptop—these are today’s coming of age […] The post Please Don’t Give Them Porn for Christmas! appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Jenny Graduated and Passed her LPC exam!

Fri, 19 Dec 2014 16:56:00 GMT

After 3 hard years of raising twins, being an amazing mom, and a wonderful wife, Jenny has graduated with her Masters in Counseling and passed her LPC exam! In addition just to make sure that she was truly challenging her self, she ran a half marathon on Sunday. Jenny has supported, consulted, and owned […] The post Jenny Graduated and Passed her LPC exam! appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Can sex be addictive?

Tue, 11 Nov 2014 00:50:00 GMT

Can sex be addictive? I am not a neurobiologist or an addictionologist, or much less, even a scientist; yet I sometimes feel pressured to answer the question about whether or not sex can be addictive. Even if it is not asked directly, the question is certainly one that floats through the minds of most of […] The post Can sex be addictive? appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Over 70 pct of Portuguese youth show signs of Internet addiction: report

Tue, 04 Nov 2014 22:58:00 GMT

LISBON, Nov. 4 (Xinhua) — More than 70 percent of Portuguese people aged between 14 and 25 show signs of Internet addiction, and 13 percent of cases are considered serious enough to cause social isolation and violence, according to a study reported in the local press on Tuesday. A study from Lisbon’s Higher Institute of […] The post Over 70 pct of Portuguese youth show signs of Internet addiction: report appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Living with Ebola in Dallas and Gratitude? What?

Fri, 17 Oct 2014 20:48:00 GMT

So, I have to start out by saying that I am not crazy about germs in the first place, so as you might imagine Living with Ebola in Dallas has caused me to up the ante on cleaning and hand sanitizer. With that being said, I have had a shift in thinking since the first patient […] The post Living with Ebola in Dallas and Gratitude? What? appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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TEENS and SEXTING – When Private Goes Public!

Tue, 30 Sep 2014 15:54:00 GMT

TEENS and SEXTING – When Private Goes Public What parents may not know, is that sexting is not sending provocative or sexual text messages. Sexting is sending a naked or partially naked photo via text or through social media. One in three young persons has been involved in sexting, and one in five has forwarded a […] The post TEENS and SEXTING – When Private Goes Public! appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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-Erin Wysong, LPC-Intern, LCDC, CSAT (C)

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What is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT)?

Tue, 16 Sep 2014 19:46:00 GMT

What is involved in becoming a CSAT therapist or counselor? All of Bluffview Counseling’s therapist either are or are training to be a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. First, an important point to remember is that only those therapists who are already licensed or otherwise credentialed in their particular counseling field (e.g. psychologists, clinical social workers, […] The post What is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT)? appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Sex Addiction and the Brian

Sat, 12 Jul 2014 19:43:00 GMT

Sex Addiction and the Brian The following comes from Time.com There’s still debate over whether sex addiction exists, but a new study on porn and the brain provides more evidence that consuming explicit material is addicting. The new study, published in the journal PLOS ONE shows that sex addiction, scientifically known as compulsive sexual […] The post Sex Addiction and the Brian appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Yoga and Recovery

Tue, 15 Apr 2014 13:27:00 GMT

Yoga and Recovery Yoga is an integral element of my recovery program. I was inspired by my sponsor and started my own practice in early 2010. An activity that I began for its exercise benefits unexpectedly became one that informs me about myself and my journey through life in many interesting ways. It is also […] The post Yoga and Recovery appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Partners of Sex Addicts Dallas – Don’t suffer alone!

Wed, 05 Mar 2014 00:19:00 GMT

Partners of Sex Addicts Dallas You may suspect or have recently confirmed that your partner is a sex addict, and you are experiencing a myriad of reactions. You may be in shock and full of emotional turmoil, experiencing feelings of anger, sadness, fear, and despair. You may think that everything you believed to be true […] The post Partners of Sex Addicts Dallas – Don’t suffer alone! appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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2014 for Bluffview Counseling!

Wed, 08 Jan 2014 16:02:00 GMT

2014 for Bluffview Counseling! Sometimes, I have found that it is important for me to write down goals and aspirations. It helps them become more concrete and real for me and adds a level of accountability. The same goes for recovery! Bluffview Counseling has been growing and evolving over the last 8 years and […] The post 2014 for Bluffview Counseling! appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Women in the Shadows of Sexual Addiction

Wed, 02 Oct 2013 13:07:00 GMT

Women in the Shadows of Sexual Addiction Much of the community of sexual addiction therapists was anxious to view with a critical eye the new movie, Thanks for Sharing; a film that delves into the lives of three individuals learning to face the challenges of recovery from sexual addiction. I personally was curious to see […] The post Women in the Shadows of Sexual Addiction appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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My Review of “Thanks for Sharing” (Movie about dealing with Sex Addiction)

Fri, 13 Sep 2013 03:45:00 GMT

“Thanks for Sharing” – Review I thought the movie was well done. It provided a very realistic view of life in the first several years of recovery from sexual addiction. All of the basic themes around recovery and 12-step meetings were presented: sobriety medallions, sponsorship, 3-second rule, relapse, partner’s fears about their addict’s relapse potential, […] The post My Review of “Thanks for Sharing” (Movie about dealing with Sex Addiction) appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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12-Step Meetings for the Non-Religious

Fri, 30 Aug 2013 21:18:00 GMT

12-Step Meetings for the Non-Religious Anyone who has attended a 12-step meeting has heard the phrases, “Higher Power” and “God, as we understand Him.” These have been added since the very early days of AA to soften the use of the single word “God” as a source of strength in recovery from alcoholism. For many […] The post 12-Step Meetings for the Non-Religious appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Why Should Partners of Sex Addicts seek therapy?

Tue, 20 Aug 2013 16:44:00 GMT

The Trauma Model In the early days of Sexual Addiction treatment, partners of sex addicts were often labeled as codependents in their first session and immediately treated with the Al anon model. This model may be appropriate at a later stage of treatment, but the primary issue for partners is to address the traumatic […] The post Why Should Partners of Sex Addicts seek therapy? appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Sex Addiction as an Intimacy Disorder

Tue, 23 Jul 2013 17:05:00 GMT

Sex Addiction as an Intimacy Disorder Sexual Addiction is sometimes called an “intimacy disorder.” What becomes clear to sex addicts over time is that their sexual acting-out behaviors rarely (or possibly never, such as with pornography) involved a deep emotional or spiritual connection with their partner. While there may have been intensity, intimacy was totally […] The post Sex Addiction as an Intimacy Disorder appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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Core beliefs of a Sex Addict

Tue, 16 Jul 2013 14:58:00 GMT

Core beliefs of a Sex Addict In his book, Out of the Shadows, Dr. Patrick Carnes indicates that all sex addicts operate from a set of four core beliefs: Self-Image – I am basically a bad, unworthy person Relationships – No one would love me as I am Needs – My needs are never going […] The post Core beliefs of a Sex Addict appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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The internet and our children’s safety

Wed, 10 Jul 2013 17:31:00 GMT

The internet and our children’s safety I can remember back to the first time I saw pornography. I was walking home from school in the first grade and found a single page from playboy. I took the page home and hid it in the bathroom. I felt so much shame about having it, but at […] The post The internet and our children’s safety appeared first on Bluffview Counseling - Dallas Individual & Couples Therapy.

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