Betrayal Trauma Therapy for Partners in Dallas, TX

Is my husband or spouse a sex addict?

When partners uncover betrayal and dishonesty from problematic sexual behaviors, such as sex addiction and infidelity, they often find themselves in a crisis, facing profound trauma. If you are experiencing this, it’s important to know you don’t have to go through it alone. This is an incredibly shocking and frightening time, and you deserve support.

Processing your betrayal trauma in a safe, compassionate, and non-judgmental environment is essential for reclaiming your peace and sense of stability. We are here to help you navigate this painful journey with the guidance and steps necessary for healing—both for yourself and your relationship.

Betrayal Trauma FAQs

Is my husband or spouse a sex addict?
What is the healing process like?
What kind of help is available?
Can I come to therapy alone?
What services are available to me?
What's my next step?

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Partners who experience betrayal truama are in crisis and are dealing with a powerfully traumatic and overwhelming situation.

It is crucial for a partner to do the difficult healing work after betrayal. This work allows for the partner to deal with the intense anger and pain and provides hope for personal healing and a healthy relationship with the addict if they choose recovery.

What is the healing process like?

Partners of sex addicts are deeply affected by the behaviors of the sex addict. Like the families of an alcoholic or other addict, the family members of a sex addict feel powerless and are powerless to control the disease and the addict.

As a partner you may go through a wide range of responses to the lies and behaviors of the sex addict. You may feel anger or rage, hurt, pain, desperation, compassion, and love. At times you may become a chief detective trying to find out what is going on or can become obsessed with uncovering information and monitoring the activities of the sex addict in hopes of understanding and changing the destructive behavior. You may become so focused on the sex addict that you may neglect your own self-care and that of your family.

You are in crisis and are dealing with a powerfully traumatic situation. Many times you may be embarrassed and humiliated at what the sex addict has done and may continue to do. There is typically an overwhelming feeling of fear and isolation. You may feel alone in dealing with these issues and may not be able to talk about it for fear of reaction and judgment from others. Often there is a deep concern that your dreams of a happy future with their partner and family are shattered.

Most partners are very angry and feel blamed about what their partner has done and is doing, you are not alone. Sometimes you may inappropriately blame yourself for the sex addicts’ behavior and in an attempt to make things different you may have joined in the addict in sexual activities that are outside of your value system or desires. Your hope that if the addict gets more and varied sexual activity with you then the addict will stop their acting out.

You are not responsible for or to blame for the sex addicts’ compulsive behavior. Only the sex addict is responsible for his or her behavior just as only you are responsible for your behavior. It is however very crucial for you to do the difficult healing work after betrayal. This work allows for you to deal with the intense anger and pain and provides hope for personal healing and a healthy relationship with the addict if they choose recovery.

What kind of help is available?

Our first step in therapy is giving compassion and support for partners of betrayal and addiction. You need validation for the intense trauma that you have experienced. As a partner, you may have sometimes felt you were going crazy with the lies and secrets the sex addict has told you. Maybe you have felt scared of telling anyone for fear of blame and humiliation. Validation for all of your feelings is very important.

Partners are encouraged to participate in individual and group psychotherapy. Participating in a therapy group for people struggling with their partners sexual behaviors and /or a 12 step support group like Infidelity Survivors Anonymous (ISA) or Co-Sex Addicts Anonymous (COSA) help to get support and to feel less isolated.

Included among the goals for partners are:

Understand the traumatic affects of the lies and betrayal
Work to find safety and stability within the relationship
Understand sex addiction and its impact on you
Learn how to identify and communicate your needs and to be assertive about these needs - be able to identify and set healthy boundaries with the addict
Understand your own reactions and behaviors
Learn how to set safe healthy guidelines with the addict regarding yourself and your children
Regain your own inner wisdom and strength to feel comfortable again in your skin

“I don’t know where I would be today if I had never sat down in Cole’s office. He helped me through some very significant, life changing events and has been an integral part of my healing. From the beginning I was able to show him who I truly am in a safe environment. Cole is great at what he does. I am not the same person I was when I first sat down in his office. I can’t find the words to express how grateful I am to him and the impact he had on my life. I highly recommend Cole as a therapist"

Anonymous Client

Can I come to therapy alone?

We encourage you to come and talk whether or not your partner is ready to start their recovery at this time. It is important for you to get support and clarity for yourself. You can learn about sex addiction and how it affects you and your family, you can decrease the isolation you feel and learn that you do not have to be ashamed because of the actions of your partner or even your own actions. In a safe non-judgmental environment, you can step back and sort out your situation and your options.

What counseling services are available to me?

We provide a safe place for you to talk about these difficult issues, sort out your situation and your goals, and start to make healthy choices to take care of yourself and your children. We provide the following services for partners of sex addicts and cyber sex addicts:

Support
Evaluation and treatment planning
Education about sexual addiction and cybersex addiction
Individual psychotherapy for the partner and/or addict
Couples counseling sessions for the partner and addict as indicated
Information and referral to co-sex addiction and sex addiction treatment groups-both 12 step and psychotherapy groups
Coordination of services with other treatment providers for the partner, family and addict.
Information and resources
Referral and assistance with arrangements for more intensive treatment if necessary including inpatient hospitalization or intensive outpatient treatment
Referral as needed

Upon discovery of an addict’s sexual behaviors, partners may experience PTSD symptoms: flashbacks, nightmares, depression, isolation, excessive emotions, outbursts of anger, panic, nausea, etc. These are serious conditions, and partners usually need therapeutic support to manage their reactions and restore stability.

You, the betrayed partner, are likely to be feeling angry, hurt, confused, afraid, sad, and alone. No one deserves to experience what you are being faced with. We understand how painful it can be. Please know that this is not your fault.

What's my next step?

It can be difficult to take the next step, and to seek action, but that might be the most important step of your life. You can schedule an appointment online, or call or email us with any questions you may have at (214) 390.5800 or email us at Info@BluffviewCounseling.com.

If we are unable to answer, you can leave a secure and confidential voice mail and someone from our office will follow up with you as soon as possible.